Anyhow, it had a lovely card and magnet (which is already on my fridge). So thank you to Kiley for reminding me what's important about our wedding. And as my friend Melinda says "It is your special day!" :) Yay!
Monday, November 15, 2010
I love Quizzes!
So, we checked our mailbox today, which we only do once a week since we don't get much mail (most of our bills are via email)! And we had a exciting package! :) I love quizzes! I was one of those dorks who always did those myspace and facebook quizzes that asked you who your first kiss was, who you last talked to, what your fave color was etc. I love taking them! :) So this quiz is especially exciting and it got me excited about my wedding again after a disappointing week of stresses that made me upset.
This was the Kiley Mullen photography getting to know you quiz! It reminded me of all the reasons why I am getting married and how much this day really does need to be about us and our love! It asked us what we like to do together, what makes us unique, etc. It was a great reminder of how much we love each other! I took my quiz, and Mike is going to take his tomorrow. He likes to have me fill out all of his stuff since his hand-writing is atrocious and I allowed him to go play his video games.
Anyhow, it had a lovely card and magnet (which is already on my fridge). So thank you to Kiley for reminding me what's important about our wedding. And as my friend Melinda says "It is your special day!" :) Yay!
Anyhow, it had a lovely card and magnet (which is already on my fridge). So thank you to Kiley for reminding me what's important about our wedding. And as my friend Melinda says "It is your special day!" :) Yay!
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Another mindless rant...
There are days were I am SO excited to plan this wedding and then there are days were I SO am not! Today is one of those days.
There are many difficult things to deal with when wedding planning. There is the budget, the opinions, where to have your ceremony, who's to be in the wedding party, contracts, ideas, squashed ideas, keeping others happy, keeping yourself happy and just plain planning all those damn details.
You have this vision in your head about your wedding day, you think it will all just come together easily. Then reality sets in. You forget that this planning process has several other people involved.
FIANCE
First off, your fiance. Now, my advice to all fiances is just say "YES!" to anything and everything your woman wants. BUT, that is not always the case. It is his day too. So if you want to jump yellow flowers but he hates the color yellow, hmm, not going to go over well. Well, maybe some guys wouldn't care but some would. Then, you have the other guy who really could care less and just wants to be told where and when to show up. Thankfully, my fiance leans towards the "just tell me where I have to be and when" HOWEVER, this does create some issues too! There are cases and times where you ask for his opinion and he could honestly care less about it. I have learned to pick and choose which topics I find most important and that I think he will actually care about before talking to him about them. I usually wait until the weekend and then try to take up as little amount of time as possible with the discussion. Otherwise, you tend to see the eyes glaze over and then you know you have lost them. Still it is very frustrating. I want to make decisions and sometimes have to wait until it's a good time to discuss these things.
Some funny sites for guys to check out: *not that any guy reads my blog, but hey, if they are:
The Ten Dumbest Reasons to Get Married
Groom Duties
Hell, just check out this whole site. It's awesome: The Plunge
FINANCIAL CONTRIBUTORS
So then you have the financial contributors. Every magazine tells you, listen to them because if they are contributing they have every right to make requests, share opinions etc. It's sometimes hard to do. Sometimes the opinions are great or something I never thought of or considered. But sometimes their vision, their idea and their opinion SO differ from yours its hard to take. Just listen, stay calm and then share your opinion and your reasons why you would like it a certain way. Try to accommodate their requests, even if it is sometimes a guest (or 2, or 3 or 10!) that they want to add. Try to make them see reason with why so and so that you don't even know should not be invited.
Check out The Knot for all budget related advice, including how to deal with these contributors
OTHERS
A.k.a those that should mind their own business
And then you just have your nosy-bodies who want to tell you what they did for their wedding or what you "have" to do for yours. Or they just plain make demands as if they are paying for your whole damn wedding. It gets annoying but try to not kill these people. I have decided that ignoring them, for me, works best in this situation. I have enough to deal with. Normal day to day stresses and then planning a wedding on top of that. These people with their demands are not something you should have to listen to and something I will certainly try to tune out.
Check out the first chapter free read ofTake Back Your Wedding: Managing the People Stress of Wedding Planning.by: William Doherty Ph.D and Elizabeth Doherty Thomas, for all advice and telling those who stress you out to, GO TO HELL!
I am frustrated today, hell, this week. And more Bridezilla then ever before. I am tired of the opinions. I am just hoping that the day I walk down the aisle it will be everything I imagined and more. But I guess, in the end, that is not what matters. What matters is that the person I am marrying, I love. I just want a day that reflects that. If I had a beer or a glass of wine right now I would raise it and say "Here's to hoping my day is as beautiful as the one I love"
Cheesy.
There are many difficult things to deal with when wedding planning. There is the budget, the opinions, where to have your ceremony, who's to be in the wedding party, contracts, ideas, squashed ideas, keeping others happy, keeping yourself happy and just plain planning all those damn details.
You have this vision in your head about your wedding day, you think it will all just come together easily. Then reality sets in. You forget that this planning process has several other people involved.
FIANCE
First off, your fiance. Now, my advice to all fiances is just say "YES!" to anything and everything your woman wants. BUT, that is not always the case. It is his day too. So if you want to jump yellow flowers but he hates the color yellow, hmm, not going to go over well. Well, maybe some guys wouldn't care but some would. Then, you have the other guy who really could care less and just wants to be told where and when to show up. Thankfully, my fiance leans towards the "just tell me where I have to be and when" HOWEVER, this does create some issues too! There are cases and times where you ask for his opinion and he could honestly care less about it. I have learned to pick and choose which topics I find most important and that I think he will actually care about before talking to him about them. I usually wait until the weekend and then try to take up as little amount of time as possible with the discussion. Otherwise, you tend to see the eyes glaze over and then you know you have lost them. Still it is very frustrating. I want to make decisions and sometimes have to wait until it's a good time to discuss these things.
Some funny sites for guys to check out: *not that any guy reads my blog, but hey, if they are:
The Ten Dumbest Reasons to Get Married
Groom Duties
Hell, just check out this whole site. It's awesome: The Plunge
FINANCIAL CONTRIBUTORS
So then you have the financial contributors. Every magazine tells you, listen to them because if they are contributing they have every right to make requests, share opinions etc. It's sometimes hard to do. Sometimes the opinions are great or something I never thought of or considered. But sometimes their vision, their idea and their opinion SO differ from yours its hard to take. Just listen, stay calm and then share your opinion and your reasons why you would like it a certain way. Try to accommodate their requests, even if it is sometimes a guest (or 2, or 3 or 10!) that they want to add. Try to make them see reason with why so and so that you don't even know should not be invited.
Check out The Knot for all budget related advice, including how to deal with these contributors
OTHERS
A.k.a those that should mind their own business
And then you just have your nosy-bodies who want to tell you what they did for their wedding or what you "have" to do for yours. Or they just plain make demands as if they are paying for your whole damn wedding. It gets annoying but try to not kill these people. I have decided that ignoring them, for me, works best in this situation. I have enough to deal with. Normal day to day stresses and then planning a wedding on top of that. These people with their demands are not something you should have to listen to and something I will certainly try to tune out.
Check out the first chapter free read ofTake Back Your Wedding: Managing the People Stress of Wedding Planning.by: William Doherty Ph.D and Elizabeth Doherty Thomas, for all advice and telling those who stress you out to, GO TO HELL!
I am frustrated today, hell, this week. And more Bridezilla then ever before. I am tired of the opinions. I am just hoping that the day I walk down the aisle it will be everything I imagined and more. But I guess, in the end, that is not what matters. What matters is that the person I am marrying, I love. I just want a day that reflects that. If I had a beer or a glass of wine right now I would raise it and say "Here's to hoping my day is as beautiful as the one I love"
Cheesy.
Monday, November 1, 2010
My knot.com checklist?
According to a very reliable source, theknot.com, I have fallen behind in my wedding planning. Seriously, how does a full time working bride EVER get things done!? There is so much to do. Here are the things I have yet to CHECK off of my list according to theknot.com:
1.Choose a wedding date and time, and finalize after okaying with important guests (parents, siblings, and grandparents), ceremony and/or reception location, and ceremony officiant.
*While we have a date, we dont have a ceremony time!
2. Begin working on a preliminary online wedding guest list and decide approximately how many people you want to invite. Request "wish lists" from both sets of parents, then compile.
*I have the "wish lists" and I know in MY mind who I want to invite. It's keeping that list UNDER 100 that will be a problem
3.Find a ceremony site (if one hasn't already been determined by your choice of officiant or reception site).
* A point of serious contention.
4. Start investigating any family wedding customs or cultural traditions you might want to incorporate into your ceremony or reception.
*um, what?
5. Finalize your wedding guest list. The Knot Hint: When you're done, make your lives easy by entering everything into your Guest List Manager.
* I thought I was still at number 2?
6.Sign your catering contract and send in a deposit.
* Since my location is a county run golf course and although I have reserved my date, I cannot officially book and deposit until January, um help!?
7. If you've chosen an outdoor ceremony or reception site, then research tent and lighting rental places in your area.
* Ceremony is undetermined as of yet so lighting is not a concern...yet. My reception is indoors. They have light. yay!
8. Envision your wedding flowers and set up appointments with wedding florists in the area to discuss options.
* While dress shopping Saturday, we stopped in at a Montgomery Florist and while the people were lovely, I was so lost. Where to begin? What do I discuss? In-season vs. Out-of-season? Centerpieces and ceremony flowers? Bridesmaids flowers? oh help me.
9. Start looking for and auditioning local reception bands or DJs.
* This I am fairly confident we have covered, DJ Dave Vega. I went to high school with him. Great personality. I hope he will still let us book him!
10. Envision your wedding invitations. Look at invite photos and decide who will make your wedding invitations. The Knot hint: Coordinate all your wedding stationery from the save-the-dates to your invitations and place cards.
* While I originally thought I would buy a packet from a store and print out my own invites. I am not sure I can undertake this task. I am fairly confident we will use Peacock Printing (our donation favors) to make our invites, but how am I to decide this without even knowing ceremony time location?
11. Set up appointments with various florists to discuss options.
*reference #8 and its issues
12. Start a wedding registry at one or more of your favorite stores. Even if you start with just a few pieces, you can always add more items later. The Knot Hint: Do it all in one place at Registry Central.
* I cant think gifts right now without actual planning complete
Dress shopping minus Quacks
Yesterday was dress shopping! Unfortunately, the Quack side could not make it but maybe it was better that way. There was a LOT to try on and a LOT to look at. More people may have been overwhelming.
Our first appointment was at David's Bridal at 11:30. We started off with mom dresses. Right off I told my consultant, my mom is NOT going to wear those mom styles. You know, the one's with the jackets? My mom is hip, good looking and young! She does NOT need to dress like some dowdy lady. She needs to show off her cute figure and good looks! We found one favorite for her at David's but we were not ready to commit for her. Next up was my sister. While I am trying to allow her to have a say, it's hard because it's the one dress I DO REALLY care about besides mine. I wanted her to try on styles she likes and loves and styles I love. In my mind, prior to seeing ANY dresses I had the idea of a cute cocktail length dress that flared out and had fullness in the skirt. My style leans towards vintage with a little modern edge while my sister likes more modern dresses. Well, at David's there was no common ground. There were dresses I liked and dresses she liked but no mutually liked dresses.
Next up was an appointment at K's Wedding Center. This store had brands like Alfred Angelo, Bill Levkoff, Eden, Mori Lee and so forth. So this meant more options, more designs and styles. Well, we walked in and raided the racks. My sister tried on AT LEAST 30 dresses! We have two contenders. One I am calling the Tinkerbell dress and the other is classy and has a 50's edge to it. My sister liked both. One was an Alfred Angelo and the other is a Mori Lee. Both had wide ranges of colors for us to choose from.
My mom also tried on dresses here and found one in the Bill Levkoff brand that was absolutely stunning on her. Like if she doesn't buy it, I am going to go back and force her to buy it! lol! We had a MUCH better experience at K's. Our consultant had more personality, gave recommendations, showed us new looks and styles we wouldn't have considered and really was all out wonderful. She helped find dresses that brought together my sister and I's looks and styles and it was such a huge help. She wrote down all of our favorites and we are probably going to go back there to get the dresses.
We had lunch and then my sister had to go to work, so my mom and I went to Reginella's in Montgomery. We walked up to the store and a man was outside smoking. We went to open the door and he stepped in front of us and said "Do you have an appointment?"
Mom and I: "No, do we need an appointment?"
Bouncer: "You must have an appointment to shop in our store"
Well, at that point, I was done. I turned to walk away but he sweet talked my mom into coming in only to give her the store card and tell her to make an appointment. Well, excuse me. We made appointments at both of the other stores but I guess appointments are mandatory here. We wont go back.
Anyway, in my mind there are three top picks for my sister. The two we saw at K's and one dress that I got from the fabulous Kiley Mullen. Her bridesmaids wore the most amazing vintage style dresses. I asked her where they were from and she sent my the direct link! Now, this is a sign of an amazing photographer! One who is willing to "Copying be the highest form of flattery" rather than be annoyed and tell me NOT to get that dress! I really love that one that Kiley sent us and my sister loves it too. Honestly, it most likely will end up being that dress but I want to see as much as I can since I want my sister to agree 100%.
On the whole, dress shopping was a success and I know in my mind more clearly the style I want. Now it is just decision time!
Our first appointment was at David's Bridal at 11:30. We started off with mom dresses. Right off I told my consultant, my mom is NOT going to wear those mom styles. You know, the one's with the jackets? My mom is hip, good looking and young! She does NOT need to dress like some dowdy lady. She needs to show off her cute figure and good looks! We found one favorite for her at David's but we were not ready to commit for her. Next up was my sister. While I am trying to allow her to have a say, it's hard because it's the one dress I DO REALLY care about besides mine. I wanted her to try on styles she likes and loves and styles I love. In my mind, prior to seeing ANY dresses I had the idea of a cute cocktail length dress that flared out and had fullness in the skirt. My style leans towards vintage with a little modern edge while my sister likes more modern dresses. Well, at David's there was no common ground. There were dresses I liked and dresses she liked but no mutually liked dresses.
Next up was an appointment at K's Wedding Center. This store had brands like Alfred Angelo, Bill Levkoff, Eden, Mori Lee and so forth. So this meant more options, more designs and styles. Well, we walked in and raided the racks. My sister tried on AT LEAST 30 dresses! We have two contenders. One I am calling the Tinkerbell dress and the other is classy and has a 50's edge to it. My sister liked both. One was an Alfred Angelo and the other is a Mori Lee. Both had wide ranges of colors for us to choose from.
My mom also tried on dresses here and found one in the Bill Levkoff brand that was absolutely stunning on her. Like if she doesn't buy it, I am going to go back and force her to buy it! lol! We had a MUCH better experience at K's. Our consultant had more personality, gave recommendations, showed us new looks and styles we wouldn't have considered and really was all out wonderful. She helped find dresses that brought together my sister and I's looks and styles and it was such a huge help. She wrote down all of our favorites and we are probably going to go back there to get the dresses.
We had lunch and then my sister had to go to work, so my mom and I went to Reginella's in Montgomery. We walked up to the store and a man was outside smoking. We went to open the door and he stepped in front of us and said "Do you have an appointment?"
Mom and I: "No, do we need an appointment?"
Bouncer: "You must have an appointment to shop in our store"
Well, at that point, I was done. I turned to walk away but he sweet talked my mom into coming in only to give her the store card and tell her to make an appointment. Well, excuse me. We made appointments at both of the other stores but I guess appointments are mandatory here. We wont go back.
Anyway, in my mind there are three top picks for my sister. The two we saw at K's and one dress that I got from the fabulous Kiley Mullen. Her bridesmaids wore the most amazing vintage style dresses. I asked her where they were from and she sent my the direct link! Now, this is a sign of an amazing photographer! One who is willing to "Copying be the highest form of flattery" rather than be annoyed and tell me NOT to get that dress! I really love that one that Kiley sent us and my sister loves it too. Honestly, it most likely will end up being that dress but I want to see as much as I can since I want my sister to agree 100%.
On the whole, dress shopping was a success and I know in my mind more clearly the style I want. Now it is just decision time!
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